That’s all… Just pretend.
Pretend you don’t give a flying fuck. There’s absolutely no difference between being shit scared, but pretending you’re confident and being genuinely cock sure of yourself.
To the outside world, it’s impossible to tell the difference. So even if you’re not confident, you can be.
Anyone can do this as well. There’s no special requirements. You don’t have to enroll on a course or see a specialist. You don’t even have to be a convincing actor. You just have to pretend, just for a while.
If you’re having trouble, then next time you’re feeling particularly vulnerable or unconfident – you’ve got a presentation coming up or an important meeting or a job interview or a once in a lifetime sales pitch or maybe you just want to be more confident in general – try this:
Pretend you don’t care. You don’t care what people think. You don’t care about the result. You don’t care if you look silly or embarrass yourself. You don’t care about stress or pressure. Just pretend you don’t give a shit. This will completely clear your mind of any distractions and take all the weight off your shoulders. No matter how long you’re pretending for – 5 minutes or 5 hours – while you’re pretending, all those negative feelings and vibes genuinely do disappear. While you’re pretending, in your mind, your worries literally don’t exist.
Now you’re free and in ‘couldn’t give a fuck mode’, you can carry on pretending to be confident. Now, it doesn’t matter what you say or who you say it to or how it’s perceived or how you act or what people think of you or how much pressure you’re under or how scared you are. None of that matters because you don’t care about that stuff, do you? And when you feel as though these things do matter, start pretending they don’t again. And why not? The only person who’ll ever know your pretending is you. So just don’t tell anyone and no one will ever know.
The best part of this is: pretend often enough and you’ll convince yourself that you actually are confident. You’ll start to believe this pretence and, when you do, it stops being a pretence and becomes a belief. It starts being a part of who you are. Then you can pretend again to be even more confident or use another pretence as a super-boost when you need a special, one off, high powered confidence injection, like an argument with the CEO who, by the way, is wrong.
Give it a go, what’s the worst that could happen?
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