Only when you identify who you’re not, can you work out who you are, who you want to be and how to be who you want to be.
I spent years making music
I never made too much money out of it, but I enjoyed it. I was good at it. When we wrapped it in, I was lost. For years. Literally lost. I dropped out of Uni, signed on the dole, coached football, worked on building sites, took a gym instructor course, spent a summer abroad working in shops and as a salesman. The whole time, I was shit at everything I did because, deep down, I was a musician.
I even went back to Uni to study marketing, simply to understand how I could earn a living making music.
I’m NOT a musician
It took years for me to realise that: I’m not a musician and that, in fact, I don’t really want to be. I don’t want to spend every other night in a hotel room and I’m not prepared to make the kind of sacrifices required to be a real success with it.
It wasn’t until I admitted: I’m not a musician, that I could work out what I am. Who I am. Who I really am. What am I good at? What aren’t I good at? What do I enjoy doing? What do I really want to do? Who do I really want to be?
Becoming Who You Want to Be
The thing I enjoyed most about making music was writing lyrics and raps and rhymes. That was how I got things off my chest and was my primary creative outlet. So I created this blog to continue writing and fill the creative void that music left.
I also enjoyed how music can affect people’s lives. It can inspire, console, motivate and entertain. I went into marketing so I could do the same and I now spend most of my time consulting: helping and inspiring others to create things that help and inspire others, too.
Admitting what you’re not is hard
It requires you to change the way you think of yourself. And change is hard. It took me years to admit what I’m not, but it was an important stage in discovering who I really am. And when you know who you really are, you can start figuring out who you want to be and how to be that person. Then you can chase your dreams without distraction and hesitation and with purpose and dedication.
So who are you, really?
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